When I was little girl I wanted to be tall SO BADLY . Honestly I still do. I played basketball and height would have been helpful. I also wanted boobs, and long legs, and normal hair... none of which I had. I was a teenager in the 90's when skinny equaled sexy and breast implants hit the scene. Well I was skinny, but not a boob in sight. I kept waiting to go through puberty so I would get some boobs- it never happened. I had an "athletic" shape (still do). That's a really nice way to say "you have the figure of a 14 year old boy". Yep. All the pretty girls had nice straight hair... yeah, not me. I have more hair than anyone on earth and it has a mind of it's own. It's not curly, not straight, kind of wavy/ kinky/ frizzy. I HATED it. Honestly I didn't look anything like I wanted. Ugh!
I spent a good amount of time trying to "correct" these flaws. I got breast implants when I was 18. Interestingly enough, I still wasn't happy. I immediately hated them and I was uncomfortable all the time. I felt the same but with bigger boobs. Ten years later I had them removed when I found a lump (it was benign). I have also straightened my hair chemically, worn high heels, dieted to look taller, longer and slimmer,- I've tried it all. Guess what? Nothing feels as good as embracing who you are.
Only when I found CrossFit and started working out for performance did I understand that my body has unique features that I should embrace. My body was created to do stuff- not to look a certain way!! I am small, but I am fast. I am square with no boobs- but my leanness allows for abs! I'll never have a round butt, but I've learned to love what butt I do have. It has grown substantially under the barbell and has made me a stronger more capable person. And that crazy hair? Turns out thick hair looks full and healthy for days between shampoos! I will always be small, and little, and square- but I am strong and capable and unapologetically me.
I challenge you to look at your "flaws" through a new lens. A lens that loves them for their unique ability to make you, you. Embrace who you are and work hard to be as healthy, and capable, and accepting as you can be.