Ya'll- if I hear this one more time I am going to stab myself in the eyeballs!! It is NOT selfish to care for yourself. It is actually necessary if you want to successfully care for anyone else. It all goes back to priorities.
I have no trouble prioritizing my exercise and maintenance (hair, nails, etc...), but I do feel guilty when I just want to be alone. I CRAVE alone time. This is magical time to me- my personal time without kids, husband, friends, etc. It can be only 10 minutes but it is necessary.
During the summer I do not teach. I have two classes for my doctorate each semester, including summer. And I am actively involved year round in our real estate business. But I have LOTS of free time comparatively during the summer.
As we reach the end of the summer, I am finishing up the semester and have one paper left to write. I will be without school for exactly two weeks. This is just enough time for me to recharge and get ready for the chaos and excitement of the new school year.
During this time I am going to do LOTS of the self care. For me this will involve a whole lot of trying to do nothing. Nothing meaning nothing I "should" be doing. This is hard because there is so much to do. If you remember reading my post about doing the hard stuff first, then you will fully understand why I find this exceptionally difficult.
Nonetheless- the hard self care for me is relaxing. For you it may be finding time to exercise. Or finding money to exercise. Or eating out less, or cooking more. Or scheduling date night with your love. Whatever it is, please look at it through a different lens- don't you deserve the same care and attention you give your family? Your clients? Your friends?
Trust me, you do.
I challenge you to dig deep and see what is stopping you. For me it is my fear that I will viewed as lazy (by whom I'm not sure). I pride myself on being able to do it all, so finding time to just be present feels lazy to me.
What's your excuse?
If you need to exercise or eat healthy foods, ask yourself why you don't. Do you feel like you don't know how? Do you feel like you don't have enough time? How can you prioritize these things and see their real worth? Isn't your health worth a few extra dollars? Isn't the vessel that gives you life worth food that nourishes it?
The most important thing in my life is my family. It is my intention to be as healthy and able as I can for as long as possible, to ensure I can be present for the long haul.
What is your end game?